Books I've Read


So, here...are some of the books which have contributed to the way I think! You might get something out of them, too!!! :)


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Toxic Parents
by Dr. Susan Forward

Are you the child of toxic parents?

When you were a child...
• Did your parents tell you you were bad or worthless?
• Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you?
• Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems?
• Were you often frightened of your parents?
• Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret?

Now that you’re an adult...
• Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child?
• Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents?
• Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money?
• Do you feel that no matter what you do, it’s never good enough for your parents?

In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents — and discover a new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.

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The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog
And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook--What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love, and Healing

by Bruce D. Perry MD, PhD and Maia Szalavitz


Although many parents fret over how to raise a more academically and financially successful child, Perry has learned a thing or two about how not to raise a prospective sociopath. 

Here he shares the stories of several children he has encountered in his decades as a child psychiatrist and expert on childhood trauma. Each child, from the seven-year-old who offered him sexual favors to the eponymous boy who spent his early years living in a dog cage, taught Perry something about the effects of early childhood trauma on brain development. 

His discoveries contradict the formerly held precept that children are emotionally resilient and will outgrow insults to their psyches. On the contrary, he says, severe and occasionally even not-so-severe emotional or physical abuse can chemically alter early brain development, resulting later in the inability to make appropriate, socially sanctioned behavioral decisions. Perry doesn't promote what he calls the "abuse excuse" for antisocial or criminal behavior; rather, he makes a powerful case for early intervention for disruptive children to prevent adult sociopathy. 

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Hold On to Your Kids 
by Gordon Neufeld, PhD and Gabor Mate MD...
REALLY GOOD!!!!

A psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting issues joins forces with a physician and bestselling author to tackle one of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our time -- peers replacing parents in the lives of our children.

Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta and Victoria, B.C. It is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident -- as do the solutions.

Hold On to Your Kids will restore parenting to its natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. The concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On to Your Kids will empower parents to satisfy their children’s inborn need to find direction by turning towards a source of authority, contact and warmth.


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In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts
Gabor Maté

Based on Gabor Maté’s two decades of experience as a medical doctor and his groundbreaking work with the severely addicted on Vancouver’s skid row, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts radically reenvisions this much misunderstood field by taking a holistic approach. 

Dr. Maté presents addiction not as a discrete phenomenon confined to an unfortunate or weak-willed few, but as a continuum that runs throughout (and perhaps underpins) our society; not a medical "condition" distinct from the lives it affects, rather the result of a complex interplay among personal history, emotional, and neurological development, brain chemistry, and the drugs (and behaviors) of addiction. 


Simplifying a wide array of brain and addiction research findings from around the globe, the book avoids glib self-help remedies, instead promoting a thorough and compassionate self-understanding as the first key to healing and wellness. 


In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts argues persuasively against contemporary health, social, and criminal justice policies toward addiction and those impacted by it. The mix of personal stories—including the author’s candid discussion of his own "high-status" addictive tendencies—and science with positive solutions makes the book equally useful for lay readers and professionals.


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Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me Christians and the Spanking Controversy by Samuel Martin

This is book has been made available by the author as a free e.book because he feels the message is that important. 

The author brings out some important points that can only be denied by those unconcerned with the truth of what the Bible teaches. If you are concerned with the truth, you will want to read this book! What we have been being taught in church about "the rod" is not even close to true! :(

From the author:
"My free ebook is free and will remain free until corporal punishment/smacking/spanking no longer happens to kids."  THIS BOOK IS AVAILABLE FREE AS AN E-BOOK HERE!!!

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When the Body Says No!
Gabor Maté

Can a person literally die of loneliness? Is there such a thing as a "cancer personality"? 

Drawing on scientific research and the author's decades of experience as a practicing physician, this book provides answers to these and other important questions about the effect of the mind-body link on illness and health and the role that stress and one's individual emotional makeup play in an array of common diseases.
  • Explores the role of the mind-body link in conditions and diseases such as arthritis, cancer, diabetes, heart disease, IBS, and multiple sclerosis
  • Draws on medical research and the author's clinical experience as a family physician
  • Includes The Seven A's of Healing-principles of healing and the prevention of illness from hidden stress
Shares dozens of enlightening case studies and stories, including those of people such as Lou Gehrig (ALS), Betty Ford (breast cancer), Ronald Reagan (Alzheimer's), Gilda Radner (ovarian cancer), and Lance Armstrong (testicular cancer)

An international bestseller translated into fifteen languages, When the Body Says No promotes learning and healing, providing transformative insights into how disease can be the body's way of saying no to what the mind cannot or will not acknowledge.


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What's Going on in There? How the Brain and Mind Develop in the First 5 Years of Life
Lise Eliot

As a research neuroscientist, Lise Eliot has made the study of the human brain her life's work. But it wasn't until she was pregnant with her first child that she became intrigued with the study of brain development. She wanted to know precisely how the baby's brain is formed, and when and how each sense, skill, and cognitive ability is developed. And just as important, she was interested in finding out how her role as a nurturer can affect this complex process. How much of her baby's development is genetically ordained--and how much is determined by environment? Is there anything parents can do to make their babies' brains work better--to help them become smarter, happier people? 

Drawing upon the exploding research in this field as well as the stories of real children, What's Going On in There? is a lively and thought-provoking book that charts the brain's development from conception through the critical first five years. In examining the many factors that play crucial roles in that process, What's Going On in There? explores the evolution of the senses, motor skills, social and emotional behaviors, and mental functions such as attention, language, memory, reasoning, and intelligence. This remarkable book also discusses:


- how a baby's brain is "assembled" from scratch

- the critical prenatal factors that shapebrain development
- how the birthing process itself affects the brain
- which forms of stimulation are most effective at promoting cognitive development
- how boys' and girls' brains develop differently
- how nutrition, stress, and other physical and social factors can permanently affect a child's brain

Brilliantly blending cutting-edge science with a mother's wisdom and insight, What's Going On in There? is an invaluable contribution to the nature versus nurture debate. Children's development is determined both by the genes they are born with and the richness of their early environment. This timely and important book shows parents the innumerable ways in which they can actually help their children grow better brains.



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The Science of Parenting
Margot Sunderland

For parents who wonder whether controlled crying is best or if constant cuddling is better, here is a clear explanation of the science of parenting styles and their effects on children's brain development. 

Ground-breaking research in the late twentieth century delved into the neuroscience behind child rearing, and this book is the first to explain those theories to parents of toddlers in a clear, engaging form. 


AUTHOR BIO: Margot Sunderland is Director of Education and Training for the Centre for Child Mental Health in London. A child psychotherapist with 20 years of experience of working with children and families, she directs graduate-level programs in child psychotherapy and emotional literacy for children and is author of more than 20 books on child mental health.



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The Whole-Brain Child
Daniel Siegel

Your toddler throws a tantrum in the middle of a store. Your preschooler refuses to get dressed. Your fifth-grader sulks on the bench instead of playing on the field. Do children conspire to make their parents’ lives endlessly challenging? No—it’s just their developing brain calling the shots!

In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight, and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson demystify the meltdowns and aggravation, explaining the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. 


The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids can seem—and feel—so out of control. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth. Raise calmer, happier children using twelve key strategies, including


• Name It to Tame It: Corral raging right-brain behavior through left-brain storytelling, appealing to the left brain’s affinity for words and reasoning to calm emotional storms and bodily tension.

• Engage, Don’t Enrage: Keep your child thinking and listening, instead of purely reacting.
• Move It or Lose It: Use physical activities to shift your child’s emotional state.
• Let the Clouds of Emotion Roll By: Guide your children when they are stuck on a negative emotion, and help them understand that feelings come and go.
• SIFT: Help children pay attention to the Sensations, Images, Feelings, and Thoughts within them so that they can make better decisions and be more flexible.
• Connect Through Conflict: Use discord to encourage empathy and greater social success.

Complete with clear explanations, age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles, and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child, The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives.


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Parenting from the Inside Out
Daniel Siegel, Mary Hartzell

How many parents have found themselves thinking: I can't believe I just said to my child the very thing my parents used to say to me! Am I just destined to repeat the mistakes of my parents? 

In Parenting from the Inside Out, child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences actually do shape the way we parent. Drawing upon stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children.


Born out of a series of parents' workshops that combined Siegel's cutting-edge research on how communication impacts brain development with Hartzell's thirty years of experience as a child-development specialist and parent educator, Parenting from the Inside Out guides parents through creating the necessary foundations for loving and secure relationships with their children.



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The Attachment Connection
Allan Schore, PhD

Studies in the 1950s revealed that young children hospitalized without their parents respond first by crying for them, then by showing signs of despair, and finally by emotionally detaching from the parents and acting indifferent to their absence. 

This detachment is hard to repair and highly detrimental to a child's development-most children who feel they cannot rely on their parents grow up to become more emotionally insecure and less self-assured than their peers.


The Attachment Connection sorts out the facts from the fiction about parent-child attachment and shows how paying attention to the emotional needs of your child, particularly during the first five years of development, can help him or her grow up happy, secure, and confident. 

You'll discover how your child's brain is developing at each stage of growth and learn to use reasonable, easy-to-implement guidelines based on sound science to foster secure attachment, healthy social skills, and emotional regulation in your child.



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Attached at the Heart: 8 Proven Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children
Barbara Nicholson, Lysa Parker

Why are there increasing numbers of children experiencing depression, anxiety, aggression and other serious mental, emotional and behavioral problems? 

Mental health experts agree that this crisis is due largely to their lack of deep connectedness to parents and community. This crucial finding requires a major shift in societal attitudes and our treatment of children. In this book, you'll learn:



  • Important facts you need to know before and after having your baby
  • Strategies to strengthen the emotional bonds with your child
  • How to be a more conscious parent with your children
  • New information to help you make informed decisions
  • How raising our children with empathy and respect can positively affect society
No other parenting book is as comprehensive in its scope, from an overview of attachment theory and current child development research to practical strategies for everyday situations. Attached at the Heart is a vital blueprint for change that begins in the home.


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Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Punishments and Rewards to Love and Reason
Alfie Kohn

Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need -- and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them.


One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. 

Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.


More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting -- including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.


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The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who we Are
Daniel Siegel

This book goes beyond the nature and nurture divisions that traditionally have constrained much of our thinking about development, exploring the role of interpersonal relationships in forging key connections in the brain. 

Daniel J. Siegel presents a groundbreaking new way of thinking about the emergence of the human mind and the process by which each of us becomes a feeling, thinking, remembering individual. Illuminating how and why neurobiology matters, this book is essential reading for clinicians, educators, researchers, and students interested in human experience and development across the life span.

Daniel J. Siegel, MD, is an internationally acclaimed author, award-winning educator, and child psychiatrist. He is Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the University of California, Los Angeles School of Medicine, where he serves as Co-Investigator at the Center for Culture, Brain, and Development and Co-Director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute, an educational center devoted to promoting insight, compassion, and empathy in individuals, families, institutions, and communities. Dr. Siegel's books include MindsightThe Mindful BrainThe Mindful TherapistParenting from the Inside Out, and The Whole-Brain Child.


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The Neuroscience of Human Relationships: Attachment and the Developing Social Brain
Louis Cozolino

Just as neurons communicate through mutual stimulation, brains strive to connect with one another. 

Louis Cozolino shows us how brains are highly social organisms. Balancing cogent explanation with instructive brain diagrams, he presents an atlas of sorts, illustrating how the architecture and development of brain systems from before birth through adulthood determine how we interact with others.



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Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How they Affect our Capacity to Love
Robert Karen

The struggle to understand the infant-parent bond ranks as one of the great quests of modern psychology, one that touches us deeply because it holds so many clues to how we become who we are. 

How are our personalities formed? 


How do our early struggles with our parents reappear in the way we relate to others as adults? 


Why do we repeat with our own children--seemingly against our will--the very behaviors we most disliked about our parents? 


In Becoming Attached, psychologist and noted journalist Robert Karen offers fresh insight into some of the most fundamental and fascinating questions of emotional life.


Karen begins by tracing the history of attachment theory through the controversial work of John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst, and Mary Ainsworth, an American developmental psychologist, who together launched a revolution in child psychology. Karen tells about their personal and professional struggles, their groundbreaking discoveries, and the recent flowering of attachment theory research in universities all over the world, making it one of the century's most enduring ideas in developmental psychology.


In a world of working parents and makeshift day care, the need to assess the impact of parenting styles and the bond between child and caregiver is more urgent than ever. Karen addresses such issues as: What do children need to feel that the world is a positive place and that they have value? Is day care harmful for children under one year? What experiences in infancy will enable a person to develop healthy relationships as an adult?, and he demonstrates how different approaches to mothering are associated with specific infant behaviors, such as clinginess, avoidance, or secure exploration. He shows how these patterns become ingrained and how they reveal themselves at age two, in the preschool years, in middle childhood, and in adulthood. And, with thought-provoking insights, he gives us a new understanding of how negative patterns and insecure attachment can be changed and resolved throughout a person's life.


The infant is in many ways a great mystery to us. Every one of us has been one; many of us have lived with or raised them. Becoming Attached is not just a voyage of discovery in child emotional development and its pertinence to adult life but a voyage of personal discovery as well, for it is impossible to read this book without reflecting on one's own life as a child, a parent, and an intimate partner in love or marriage.



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Early Deprivation of Empathic Care
John Leopold Weil

In this landmark volume, Dr. Weil carefully defines empathic care and examines the ways in which early deprivation during infancy could result in psychological and physical deterioration, a source of chronic loss of pleasure, as well as for hyper- and hypo-arousal states. In this work, Weil stresses that compensatory supply lines can emerge to bring about life-restoring homeostatic states among infants who have been deprived. 

Dr. Weil establishes that such deprivation is best understood around two axes: one which describes the degrees of arousal, and another axis which describes the degrees of pleasure-displeasure. The long-term effects of early emotional deprivation occur in a continuum of mild as well as severe deprivation in early infancy. 

Dr. Weil also presents evidence to suggest that compensations for early deprivation are repeatedly characterized by compulsivity and/or addictiveness, and that these compensations range from pathologically destructive to social constructive forms



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Breaking Their Will

Janet Heimlich

High-profile cases such as the child sexual abuse scandals in the Catholic Church and "faith healing" deaths in certain fundamentalist Christian congregations have made the public aware that religion can sometimes mask deviant and harmful behavior. But the extent of the problem is far greater than most people realize. In this revealing, disturbing, and thoroughly researched book, award-winning journalist Janet Heimlich exposes a dark side of faith that most Americans do not know exists or have ignored for a long time—religious child maltreatment.



After speaking with dozens of victims, perpetrators, and experts, and reviewing a myriad of court cases and studies, Heimlich explains how religious child maltreatment happens. She then takes an in-depth look at the many forms of child maltreatment found in religious contexts, including biblically-prescribed corporal punishment and beliefs about the necessity of "breaking the wills" of children; scaring kids into faith and other types of emotional maltreatment such as spurning, isolating, and exploiting; pedophilic abuse by religious authorities and the failure of religious organizations to support the victims and punish the perpetrators; and religiously-motivated medical neglect in cases of serious health problems.

In concluding chapters, Heimlich proposes changes in improved legislation and societal attitudes to protect children from harm and emphasizes the importance of respecting children's rights.

While fully acknowledging that religion can be a source of great comfort, strength, and inspiration to many young people, Heimlich makes a compelling case that, regardless of one's religious or secular orientation, maltreatment of children under the cloak of religion can never be justified and should not be tolerated.

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Touching: The Human Significance of the Skin
Ashley Montagu

With more than 300,000 copies sold, this landmark book is an impressive examination of the importance of touching. 


"All professionals concerned with human behavior will find something of value. . . . 


Parents . . . can gain insight into the nurturing needs of infants." -- Janet Rhoads, American Journal of Occupational Therapy

(EXCELLENT BOOK!!!!! I can't believe these few sentences are all Amazon has to say about it!!!)



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Touch
Tiffany Field

The first sensory input in life comes from the sense of touch while a baby is still in the womb, and touch continues to be the primary means of learning about the world throughout infancy, well into childhood. 
Touch is critical for children's growth, development, and health, as well as for adults' physical and mental well-being. Yet American society, claims Tiffany Field, is dangerously touch-deprived.

Field, a leading authority on touch and touch therapy, begins this accessible book with an overview of the sociology and anthropology of touching and the basic psychophysical properties of touch. She then reports recent research results on the value of touch therapies, such as massage therapy, for various conditions, including asthma, cancer, autism, and eating disorders. She emphasizes the need for a change in societal attitudes toward touching, particularly among those who work with children.

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The Development of the Person

The definitive work on a groundbreaking study, this essential volume provides a coherent picture of the complexity of development from birth to adulthood. 

Explicated are both the methodology of the Minnesota study and its far-reaching contributions to understanding how we become who we are. 

The book marshals a vast body of data on the ways in which individuals' strengths and vulnerabilities are shaped by myriad influences, including early experiences, family and peer relationships throughout childhood and adolescence, variations in child characteristics and abilities, and socioeconomic conditions. Implications for clinical intervention and prevention are also addressed. 

Rigorously documented and clearly presented, the study's findings elucidate the twists and turns of individual pathways, illustrating as never before the ongoing interplay between developing children and their environments.

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The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Hurtful Parenting
Alice Miller

An examination of childhood trauma and its surreptitious, debilitating effects by one of the world's leading psychoanalysts.

Never before has world-renowned psychoanalyst Alice Miller examined so persuasively the long-range consequences of childhood abuse on the body. 

Using the experiences of her patients along with the biographical stories of literary giants such as Virginia Woolf, Franz Kafka, and Marcel Proust, Miller shows how a child's humiliation, impotence, and bottled rage will manifest itself as adult illness;be it cancer, stroke, or other debilitating diseases. 

Never one to shy away from controversy, Miller urges society as a whole to jettison its belief in the Fourth Commandment and not to extend forgiveness to parents whose tyrannical childrearing methods have resulted in unhappy, and often ruined, adult lives. In this empowering work, writes Rutgers professor Philip Greven, "readers will learn how to confront the overt and covert traumas of their own childhoods with the enlightened guidance of Alice Miller."


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For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence 

Alice Miller

For Your Own Good, the contemporary classic exploring the serious if not gravely dangerous consequences parental cruelty can bring to bear on children everywhere, is one of the central works by Alice Miller, the celebrated Swiss psychoanalyst.

With her typically lucid, strong, and poetic language, Miller investigates the personal stories and case histories of various self-destructive and/or violent individuals to expand on her theories about the long-term affects of abusive child-rearing. 


Her conclusions--on what sort of parenting can create a drug addict, or a murderer, or a Hitler--offer much insight, and make a good deal of sense, while also straying far from psychoanalytic dogma about human nature, which Miller vehemently rejects.

This important study paints a shocking picture of the violent world--indeed, of the ever-more-violent world--that each generation helps to create when traditional upbringing, with its hidden cruelty, is perpetuated. The book also presents readers with useful solutions in this regard--namely, to resensitize the victimized child who has been trapped within the adult, and to unlock the emotional life that has been frozen in repression.



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The Truth Will Set You Free
Alice Miller

More than twenty years ago, a little-known Swiss psychoanalyst wrote a book that changed the way many people viewed themselves and their world. 

In simple but powerful prose, the deeply moving Drama of the Gifted Child showed how parents unconsciously form and deform the emotional lives of their children. 


Alice Miller's stories about the roots of suffering in childhood resonated with readers, and her book soon became a backlist best seller.In The Truth Will Set You Free Miller returns to the intensely personal tone and themes of her best-loved work. Only by embracing the truth of our past histories can any of us hope to be free of pain in the present, she argues. 


Miller uses vivid true stories to reveal the perils of early-childhood mistreatment and the dangers of mindless obedience to parental will. 


Drawing on the latest research on brain development, she shows how spanking and humiliation produce dangerous levels of denial, which leads in turn to emotional blindness and to mental barriers that cut off awareness and the ability to learn new ways of acting. If this cycle repeats itself, the grown child will perpetrate the same abuse on later generations--a message vitally important, especially given the increasing popularity of programs like Tough Love and of "child disciplinarians" like James Dobson. The Truth Will Set You Free will provoke and inform all readers who want to know Alice Miller's latest thinking on this important subject.

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Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

Tim Clinton (Author), Gary Sibcy (Author)

In this transformational book, the authors have used ground-breaking research to develop four primary patterns of relating to one another that shed light on our actions--and how we can learn to love and be loved even better.

(Ed. D. The College of William and Mary) is President of the nearly 50,000-member American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), the largest and most diverse Christian counseling association in the world. He is Professor of Counseling and Pastoral Care, and Executive Director of the Center for Counseling and Family Studies at Liberty University. Licensed in Virginia as both a Professional Counselor (LPC) and Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Tim now spends a majority of his time working with Christian leaders and professional athletes. He is recognized as a world leader in faith and mental health issues and has authored 20 books including his latest, Breakthrough: When to Give In, When to Push Back. Most importantly, Tim has been married 31 years to his wife Julie and together they have two children, Megan and Zach.



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The Chemistry of Connection: How the Oxytocin Response Can Help You Find Trust, Intimacy, and Love

Susan Kuchinskas


When you make love, cuddle with a partner, or have coffee with close friends, a powerful brain chemical called oxytocin floods your body with feelings of contentment and trust. 

This natural "love drug," produced by the hypothalamus, is responsible for human bonding in both platonic and intimate relationships, and is the key to many of the psychological differences between men and women. 

In The Chemistry of Connection, you'll learn easy ways to increase your natural supply of oxytocin to establish deeper connections with family, friends, and romantic partners.

You'll discover:
  • The power of the cuddle hormone in relationships
  • How sex and love are deeply entwined for both women and men
  • The chemical differences between lust, romance, and love
  • How to raise children who trust and love in a healthy way
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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

Adele Faber (Author), Elaine Mazlish

You can stop fighting with your children! Here is the bestselling book that will give you the know-how you need to be more effective with your children—and more supportive of yourself. Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding. Now, in this thirtieth-anniversary edition, these award-winning experts share their latest insights and suggestions based on feedback they’ve received over the years.

Their methods of communication—illustrated with delightful cartoons showing the skills in action—offer innovative ways to solve common problems. 

You’ll learn how to:

* Cope with your child’s negative feelings—frustration, disappointment, anger, etc.
* Express your anger without being hurtful
* Engage your child’s willing cooperation
* Set firm limits and still maintain goodwill
* Use alternatives to punishment
* Resolve family conflicts peacefully

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The Baby Bond: The New Science Behind What's Really Important When Caring for Your Baby

Linda F. Palmer


"If you're looking for "Baby Matters," you'll love "The Baby Bond." Extensively documented "Baby Matters" won a Silver IPPY award in 2008 and was picked up by the publisher, SourceBooks. It has been updated, revised, and embellished, and is now "The Baby Bond." You can read the many wonderful reviews for "Baby Matters" on its Amazon page in order to gain insight into "The Baby Bond."
If you already own "Baby Matters," a large bulk of the text is the same. If you have one of the earlier editions, I wouldn't purchase "The Baby Bond" unless you have a newborn or young infant with challenges you are going to turn to this book for. In this case, there are lots of small but important details that I've changed my mind a little on, or just written more about, as I've followed the research over the years. I've gone through the book with great detail to be certain that each idea is still current in the science and I've made changes where I found I could bring newer information. I've added informative preemie feeding tables that should help drive home the message about feeding term infants as well. I updated lots of the references for some of the same old words just to keep the reference section looking more current, as pretty much all the messages in my book (originally released in 2001, updated before in 2007) just get re-proven over and over.
Dr. Linda Folden Palmer is a doctor of chiropractic, a science writer, a consultant and speaker on pediatric nutrition and natural parenting challenges, and a mother.
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Primal Health

Michel Odent
Michel Odent, the leading pioneer for natural childbirth, indicates that the period between conception and a child's first birthday is critical to life-long health. In this prophetic book - first published in 1986 and reproduced here in its original form - he argues that different parts of the 'primal adaptive system' develop, regulate and adjust themselves during foetal life and the time around birth and infancy. 
'Everything which happens during this period of dependence on the mother has an influence on this basic state of health, this primal health.' He suggests that the later well-being of adults, their ability to withstand the 'diseases of civilization' such as hypertension, cancer, alcoholism and failures of the immune system resulting in AIDS, allergies and viral diseases, can all be traced back to society's ignorance of the vital importance of the primal period. 
Since the first edition of this groundbreaking work, research has continued apace, offering further evidence to substantiate Odent's ideas. In the important new "Introduction and Postscript", the author reviews recent developments and relates them to the central themes of Primal Health. This book is essential reading for all who care about the health of our children and the ongoing health of society as a whole.
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The Mind of Your Newborn Baby
David Chamberlain 

This is the long-awaited tenth-anniversary edition of Dr. Chamberlain's 1988 classic, Babies Remember Birth. In paperback format and enriched with a new last chapter, this book has the potential to revolutionize the way we look at babies, both before and after birth. 


Part I is filled with "user-friendly" information about the mind and abilities of newborns, as well as a thorough look at their development before birth. 


Parts II and III present evidence that babies do remember birth and are very much aware of the people around them at that time. Dr. Chamberlain writes compellingly about the newborn's sensitivity, awareness, and vulnerability. He emphasizes the importance and power of the infant-and-parent connection during pregnancy and after birth. When the information in this book becomes common knowledge, we will look at our children with new respect and understanding.



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Christlike Parenting: Taking the Pain Out of Parenting 

Glenn I. Latham

By improving the way we, as parents, interact with our children, we can improve their behavior. 


Thus the importance of "being of good cheer"; of what we say and how we say it; of creating a safe, noncoercive environment in the home where children are taught not only good behavior but also good values. 


Dr. Latham's suggestions are simple, scriptural, and amazingly effective. 


Parents have used his unique combination of Christian principles and behavioral science to handle everything from backtalk and profanity to children who threaten violence - and the results have been described as miraculous.



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Connection Parenting: Parenting Through

Connection Instead of Coercion, Through Love Instead of Fear

Pam Leo 

CONNECTION PARENTING is based on the parenting series Pam Leo has taught for nearly 20 years. Pam’s premise is that every child’s greatest emotional need is to have a strong emotional bond with at least one adult. 


When we have a bond with a child we have influence with a child. Pam teaches us that when we strengthen our parent-child bond we meet the child’s need for connection and our need for influence. 


“...here is a concise, simple, eminently readable and instructive summary of the knowledge Pam has gained through these years of devoted service. I can’t recommend this book highly enough and will surely promote it at every opportunity.” 

~ Joseph Chilton Pearce, author, MAGICAL CHILD


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Jesus on Parenting



"How would Jesus raise a child?" What a thought-provoking question, and one that no one has really answered -- until now.

Our children are blessings. But let's face it. They also can be hard to handle. Parenting is exhausting and requires leadership, two characteristics that Jesus knew well. He knew what it was like to be exhausted when the crowds pushed in. He served as a leader every day, guiding his disciples by example.

In this compelling book, Teresa Whitehurt presents ten principles drawn from the lessons and actions of JEsus. Using modern-day examples, she discusses such topics as contemporary parenting trends that are at odds with Jesus' teaching, parenting temptations, and how to help your children be more receptive to Jesus' message. She'll help you apply each principle to your own spiritual and character development and guide you to consider how living by these principles affects children and families.

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Feelings Buried Alive Never Die




Karol Truman has brought together in one book, Feelings Buried Alive Never Die...the best of the best. 

She not only tells you why you feel the way you feel, but how these feelings all started. She then goes on to tell you how YOU can easily transform these undesirable feelings so that they no longer hinder your growth. 

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A More Excellent Way: Be in Health




The root of psychological and biological disease is spiritual. 

Author Henry W. Wright not only equips the church with respect to defeating sickness, but he also demystifies it by showing, from God s perspective, why mankind has disease in the first place.


A More Excellent Way is a valuable resource in assisting spiritual leaders, health-care professionals, and all individuals in understanding the spiritual dynamics behind

diseases of the body, spirit, and soul.

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Holy Bible: New American Standard Bible (NASB) 




The New American Standard Bible has been widely acclaimed as the most literally accurate translation from the original languages. 

Millions of people, students, scholars, pastors, missionaries, and laypersons alike, have trusted the NASB, learning from it and applying it to the challenges of their daily lives. Now, the updated NASB increases clarity and readability. Vocabulary, grammar, and sentence structure were carefully reviewed for greater understanding and smoother. 


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Holy Bible: King James Version Easy Reader (KJVER)

GEM Publishing 


* Red Letter Old and New Testaments
* 1611 KJV with outdated words replaced with the modern equivalents to read as we speak
today. Thou shalt is now You shall
* Special margin study guides
* Extensive treasury of biblical information
* Dictionary concordance
* Available in personal size and large

KJVer Version is a sensitively revised King James Version in which archaic words have been simplified to make God's Word more understandable.

Difficult Term Definitions
Archaic and difficult words are underlined and defined at the end of the verse by using the proper Hebrew text in the Old Testament and the proper Greek text in the New Testament. These words will often open up the meaning of a word or verse that often has been otherwise not understood or misunderstood.

Red–Letter Old and New Testament
A feature that is unique to our Bibles is a Red–Letter Old Testament as well as a Red–Letter New Testament. In the Old Testament, the red lettering indicates the direct words of God. In the New Testament, the red lettering indicates the words of Christ.

The Received Text
Another primary difference between the KJV Easy Reading and other versions on the market is that it follows the Received Text. The Received Text is what the church fathers have used for nearly 400 years. The Easy Reading follows the King James text almost word for word, merely updating language. Among the many reasons for this is that it allows one who has learned English as a second language to have an understanding of the scriptures without thees and thous. Please note this has all been done without changing one word of doctrine or touching deity.


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The Myth of a Christian Nation: How the Quest for Political Power Is Destroying the Church

Gregory A. Boyd

The church was established to serve the world with Christ-like love, not to rule the world. It is called to look like a corporate Jesus, dying on the cross for those who crucified him, not a religious version of Caesar. 


It is called to manifest the kingdom of the cross in contrast to the kingdom of the sword. Whenever the church has succeeded in gaining what most American evangelicals are now trying to get -- political power -- it has been disastrous both for the church and the culture. 


Whenever the church picks up the sword, it lays down the cross. The present activity of the religious right is destroying the heart and soul of the evangelical church and destroying its unique witness to the world. The church is to have a political voice, but we are to have it the way Jesus had it: by manifesting an alternative to the political, 'power over,' way of doing life. 


We are to transform the world by being willing to suffer for others -- exercising 'power under,' not by getting our way in society -- exercising 'power over.'



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The Spirit Level: Why Greater Equality Makes Societies Stronger






It is a well-established fact that in rich societies the poor have shorter lives and suffer more from almost every social problem. 

The Spirit Level, based on thirty years of research, takes this truth a step further. One common factor links the healthiest and happiest societies: the degree of equality among their members. 


Further, more unequal societies are bad for everyone within them-the rich and middle class as well as the poor.


The remarkable data assembled in The Spirit Level exposes stark differences, not only among the nations of the first world but even within America's fifty states. Almost every modern social problem-poor health, violence, lack of community life, teen pregnancy, mental illness-is more likely to occur in a less-equal society.


Renowned researchers Richard Wilkinson and Kate Pickett lay bare the contradictions between material success and social failure in the developed world. But they do not merely tell us what's wrong. They offer a way toward a new political outlook, shifting from self-interested consumerism to a friendlier, more sustainable society.



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(Probably the most controversial book I've read lately but it had a lot of good stuff to make ya think in it!)

Love Wins: A Book About Heaven, Hell, and the Fate of Every Person Who Ever Lived

Rob Bell


“In Love Wins, Rob Bell tackles the old heaven-and-hell question and offers a courageous alternative answer. Thousands of readers will find freedom and hope and a new way of understanding the biblical story - from beginning to end.” (Brian D. McLaren, author of A New Kind of Christianity and Naked Spirituality )

“It isn’t easy to develop a biblical imagination that takes in the comprehensive and eternal work of Christ . . . Rob Bell goes a long way in helping us acquire just such an imagination--without a trace of soft sentimentality and without compromising an inch of evangelical conviction.” (Eugene H. Peterson, Professor Emeritus of Spiritual Theology, Regent College, and author of The Message and The Pastor )

“A bold, prophetic and poetic masterpiece. I don’t know any writer who expresses the inexpressible love of God as powerfully and as beautifully as Rob Bell! No one who seriously engages this book will put it down unchanged. A ‘must read’ book!” (Greg Boyd, senior pastor at Woodland Hills Church and author of The Myth of a Christian Nation )

“One of the nation’s rock-star-popular young pastors, Rob Bell, has stuck a pitchfork in how Christians talk about damnation.” (USA Today )

“Claiming that some versions of Jesus should be rejected, particularly those used to intimidate and inspire fear or hatred, Bell persuasively interprets the Bible as a message of love and redemption. . . . His style is characteristically concise and oral, his tone passionate and unabashedly positive.” (Publishers Weekly )

“Bell fights every impulse in our culture to domesticate Jesus [and] challenges the reader to be open to surprise, mystery and all of the unanswerables. . . . Bell has given theologically suspicious Christians new courage to bet their life on Jesus Christ.” (Christian Century )

“This attention-getter of a book ignited a heated popular conversation about whether God saves people like Gandhi or sends him and billions of other non-Christians to a fiery and painful place in the afterlife.” (Publishers Weekly, Best Books of the Year )

“Love Wins will make Christians re-examine their faith and will help them reclaim a vital and exciting vision of heaven and God’s love.” (Relevant )

“Bell is at the forefront of a rethinking of Christianity in America.” (Time magazine )

“One of the country’s most influential evangelical pastors.” (New York Times )

“This evangelical celebration of the love of God will open new doors for Jesus seekers fed up with the toxic hellfire and brimstone tirades of fundamentalist Christianity. As that happens, love wins again!” (Spirituality and Practice )
Rob Bell is a bestselling author and international teacher and speaker. His books include Velvet Elvis, Sex God, Jesus Wants to Save Christians, Drops Like Stars,and Love Wins, and he was profiled in TIME magazine as one of 2011's hundred most influential people. He and his wife, Kristen, have three children.
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The Science of Evil: On Empathy and the Origins of Cruelty



Borderline personality disorder, autism, narcissism, psychosis, Asperger's: All of these syndromes have one thing in common--lack of empathy. 

In some cases, this absence can be dangerous, but in others it can simply mean a different way of seeing the world.

In The Science of Evil Simon Baron-Cohen, an award-winning British researcher who has investigated psychology and autism for decades, develops a new brain-based theory of human cruelty. A true psychologist, however, he examines social and environmental factors that can erode empathy, including neglect and abuse.

Based largely on Baron-Cohen's own research, The Science of Evil will change the way we understand and treat human cruelty.

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