Monday, April 21, 2014

If you aren't your child's friend...what ARE you?

So often I see people on Facebook "proud" to declare that they are their child's "parent" and NOT their "friend."

But...

"A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same." ― Elbert Hubbard

"One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood." ― Lucius Annaeus Seneca

"A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down." ― Arnold H. Glasow


"The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing... not healing, not curing...that is a friend who cares." ― Henri Nouwen

"Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend." ― Martin Luther King, Jr.

"Friends and good manners will carry you where money won't go." ― Margaret Walker


"It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them". ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

"A true friend freely, advises justly, assists readily, adventures boldly, takes all patiently, defends courageously, and continues a friend unchangeably." ― William Penn

"A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself." ― Jim Morrison


"Friendship... is not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything."  ― Muhammad Ali

“An acquaintance merely enjoys your company, a fair-weather companion flatters when all is well, a true friend has your best interests at heart and the pluck to tell you what you need to hear.” ― E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly

“Friendship is the only cure for hatred, the only guarantee of peace.” ― Gautama Buddha


“It's the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.” ― Marlene Dietrich

“We are all travelers in the wilderness of this world, and the best we can find in our travels is an honest friend.”  ― Robert Louis Stevenson


"Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together." – Woodrow T. Wilson



Proverbs 17:17 
"A friend loves at all times"


John 15:13
Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends. You are My friends if you do what I command you.


Luke 7:34
The Son of Man has come eating and drinking, and you say, ‘Behold, a gluttonous man and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’


Luke 12:4 
“I say to you, My friends, do not be afraid of those who kill the body and after that have no more that they can do.


So, if these are all the things a friend is...and if you think that being a parent means you aren't all those things to your child...then...what ARE you to your child? 

There is no greater thing you could be to your child than to be their best friend...

And, we wonder what's wrong with kids these days?



Other posts on "Friendship"



Sunday, April 13, 2014

Guest Post: Journey with Aspergers

This is (a rough draft of) chapter 1 of the book, "Journey with Aspergers" that is being written by a friend of mine named David Bell.

I am going to leave it here for you all as he wrote it...



Chapter 1: Growing up 

Now at first when I was growing up, Aspergers was often mistaken as AD/HD which is a different form. It often meant lack of focus and some problems I didn't understand. Teachers were hard on me in normal class, though going back to the beginning is easier. I spent my early years in a Christian School, now that I'm older I realize demonizing the people who did their jobs isn't right. See when you acted out they spanked you, even back than I didn't make friends. I was a distant child who felt nervous in rooms filled with people, which is why I believe I acted out. 

My mother took care of me in ways not many parents could of, I wasn't an easy child to handle. I suffered from abandonment issues severally, often wondering if because a person left I never would see them again. I still to this day suffer from this feeling, it may come from the abandonment issues I suffer from. But even as a child I didn't make friends like most people do. With most people who go through school they make friends and keep contact. I didn't do that, Aspergers in it's most known form is a learning disability but it's more than that. Those with it, suffer extremely socially it's hard for us to figure out things people have. Like unless I spend an extended period of time with a person, I can't see the signals things are wrong.

After the time at the Christian School came my next memory which was going to a public school, while I don't remember this event directly I believe it was painful. I couldn't read at all at the time and one of the teachers forced me to read in front of the class. I believe it may of been an event that triggered a large deal of pain for me as a child. So I tried to block it out and keep only memories that weren't so painful. But as I got older I noticed I had bad hand writing and wasn't exceptionally talented at anything but video games. Like most people I didn't know what I wanted as a child and nobody can really claim they do. I felt alone and outcast even among family. I did have a single talent I could memorize the bible and hold it's scripture dearly within my heart. I believed firmly in God, but I didn't fear him as a child. I felt like he replaced a void in my heart, but the more I think on it. I was in pain but never let anyone in. Something I'm not doing these days, but I'm still inexperienced at letting others inside. I always dreamed as a child that I could be that hero, the person who helped everyone. It's a desire deep within my heart to help others and protect them from the pain I had.

Now I would be lying if I said people didn't really help me learn. As a child I was angry and lost and God saw this and put someone in my life. He guided me and showed me a kindness I hadn't seen before. He even helped my mother who needed it as well, I wish I had known how much she suffered than too. Part of the autism prevented me from seeing it, but I thank God such a person helped her. He helped me accept their was nothing wrong with being different, it was through him I met true friends for the first time. I didn't keep contact with many of them as I grew up. I have no problem claiming this fact for the world to know, this man is my greatest Hero and I always think about how can I honor his memory. As a child he taught me it was ok to be a kid, to live like one. He encouraged me to come out of the box I had built around me. His family and them are some of the greatest people I will ever know, I won't be giving out names as this is a journey for you and me. I can't remember the days of school as he took such good care of me. Helping me through struggles that I doubt anyone but God himself could of helped me through. I used to be scared of being different, but I now accept it and encourage you to do the same.

As time progressed I was put into the school system's class room for people with my autism. AD/HD which was still what people believed I had. It was hard, the kids were violent and often had outbursts of anger. When you are around such people you turn into it, the teachers didn't know what they were dealing with. So they couldn't really contend with children or help us learn effectively in most cases. Some were good and some were bad, I remember being hit and struck by students in the class rooms. 

As I got older it become more clear I was different from the children in the class room, I wasn't angry or upset. But distant and lonely yet again as I started to try and cut myself off from people. Just so I could avoid being hurt and left alone again. This was around the time that wonderful man wasn't in my life for a while. I learned a great many things during this time, becoming a student slowly allowed me to grow. Yet during this time I didn't have any friends that stood out, as a student I didn't have the quality to allow me to make friends. You see I have best friends I grew up with but still even with them I don't keep great contact. Now of course I made friends on the surface and even could remember names. But they weren't people who came around or called me truthfully. Part of this was my isolation of myself, as a child I thought I had to do this. Perhaps it was because I was scared of being abandon and growing attached. The only person I let myself lean on was my Mom and the family of that man.

Some of the friends knew a bit of what I wanted them to know. But as I got older, listening to people who could play music and do many things. I often fell into depression, not knowing what I was supposed to do. What was my talent, surely God couldn't use video games as a talent. But what I didn't know, was that God had a far greater talent hidden within me waiting for the right time. I'll write something here for special showing what my talent is, it's a poem I have been working on for that man. It's called Hero but anyways I'll include it in this section of the book. It's something I wish I had gotten the chance to read to him. 

As I grew up I was switched around school systems. I was put into a school with my best friend, only now have I realized that bullying has forms that people don't know. You have the regular bully who just beats and demoralizes a person. Than you have the people, I say people and not person. Growing up the children who had autism or were in special classes were cut off from other students. During lunch we couldn't pick where we sat, we were forced to sit together. This caused most of us I think to become worse. To seek being alone over being with other people, by cutting us off from other people. It only made us more anti-social than we already were. It felt as though the second type of bully was here, like even if we did reach out. People wouldn't acknowledge us and we just didn't belong in society.

That man came back into my life again for a time, he'd moved out of the old house I had grown so fond of. An apartment complex of sorts is where he'd gone now. I think my mom could tell I was getting worse and put me back with him again. I came out of my shell a little bit, I now wish I had spent more time with him. I played around wishing I could speak other languages often pretending I could just to be more. Most of my childhood around this periods was uneventful, I continued down the path getting guidance from him all the way. God continued to provide guidance with him and his family. But as time went on soon that would disappear and I would have to try and make way through troubled waters. He moved farther away and I felt myself close up again. I kept a mask on for many years so my family only saw that. I was feeling abandoned again, but he did his best to make sure I knew it wasn't that way. I continued in the school districts till I hit my middle school years, which will be talked about in the next chapter. Below this section I will include the poem to show the talent for writing I got as I got older. 

Aspergers isn't a happy story all the time, but we are heroes of our stories. Growing up is hard and you can do this as parents or people with it. Just remember don't close yourself off no matter how hard it is. In closing this chapter I am going to be honest and say that it's a tough road as a parent. I see this only now for my mother, she did things that most parents don't. She worked hard to make sure I was treated normally and to this day fights for me on a daily basis. Now I encourage you to look for things you enjoy, writing, music, and the arts. I didn't have the confidence to try and write but now it's different obviously. Just don't give up yet, you have a bright future ahead of you as you are the hero of this story.


Poem

You are my hero, the one who saved me the road I travel. Who brought me freedom from darkness, showing me light. Delivering me from anger to happiness it's through you my hero that I find peace. The truth is you showed me I was a hero in the making. A hero of a different story and of a different fable. You showed me my road was ok and accepted me as a hero. For that I say you are my hero that forever lives in my heart.



Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Sorry, Smockity Frocks. Not amused.

So, I just read this on the "Smockity Frocks" blog...



Seems to be a blog that touts itself as being funny and at first...when I started reading this post it sounded funny and good humored...

"And then I found a ring in my baby's butt"

Our 8th child, who we affectionately refer to as “the baby,” is what many would call “a character.”

Or “a pistol”
“A corker”
“A handful”
“A stinker”

We always know where she’s been because we see the signs.

And, here the blog's author inserts several cute photos of funny stuff her little one has done which I could totally relate to as I have similar pictures of my own kids' antics...

Then...

So, one night around midnight I wasn’t too awfully surprised when my oldest daughter knocked on my bedroom door to wake me and said, “You have got to follow me into the living room! You’ll never believe who’s in there!”

She said she came downstairs to get a drink of water and she heard some rustling around on the recliner in the living room. She was a little concerned at what could be making the noise at such an hour when the whole house was asleep, so she nervously shined her cell phone light in that direction.

That’s when she saw her and came to get me.

When I rounded the corner, I saw Li’l Miss 2yo Handful sitting on the recliner,rummaging through my purse.

At midnight.

As naked as the day she was born.

My first response was, “WHAT THE HECK? HOW..? WHY???”

I stood with my hands on my hips and said in a disapproving tone, “WHAT are you doing?!”

She knew she had been caught doing something(S!) she shouldn’t be doing so she made a quick excuse. “I needed gum…” she stammered out.

And, see, right here is where it stopped being funny. The mom doesn't even realize what she just admitted. She just admitted that her style of parenting fills her children with fear so that they will "make quick excuses" (also known as lying.) And, then...

My oldest daughter, who had found her, was stifling giggles by now, and I began listing all the reasons she was in trouble.

1) You do not get out of bed and wander around the house.
2) At midnight.
3) To dig in Mama’s purse.
4) Butt naked.

I told her she was going to get a spanking and I picked her up, turned her around, and bent her over to give her a couple of swats with my hand.

She mentions that her child's private area is now facing her and she's about to hit her there to cause her pain so casually...and she doesn't even know why her little one was doing what she was doing? She's just going to hit her for it...

So, she's admitted something else about her parenting and that of most spankers - they do not take the time to investigate "why" their kids do what they do OR to properly explain to the children what they've done wrong. She was simply gonna swat her hiney, end of story.

She finally gets to the point of her story...

That’s when a ring popped right out of her crack.

You know the costume jewelry kind that you find in the toy aisle in a kit with a crown and a wand?

Like candy from a Pez dispenser.

At this point, my 18yo and I looked at each other and we both lost it. I couldn’t go through with the swats. I couldn’t even breathe.

Apparently the ring was in the chair when she sat down and it got wedged in tight until the moment of truth. Until she became the goose that laid the golden egg. Or the fish that produced a gold coin to pay the taxes.

She was saved by the ring.

So, the moral of this story...I guess, is that if you do something Mom has declared "bad" you will be hurt by Mom...UNLESS...the way you be bad is funny to Mom. If you can make Mom laugh...you won't be punished?

Monty Python often pops into my head when I hear absurd things...and I see the guys mucking about in the mud in "Monty Python and The Holy Grail" and I think that this arbitrary way of administering punishment is hardly a basis for a system of family government...especially one which the blog claims is supposed to be glorifying God...

And, then I scrolled back up and took another look at the pics of the little one doing naughty things and noticed that she was crying in one pic and looking sad in others. It struck me, "Does this mom...take pictures of her kids doing ornery things before/after she spanks them for it for her own fame and fortune?" (blog hits = income and she also sells e-books, oddly, about watching your mouth. Does Mom have a problem with that? I wonder who spanks Mom then?)

But, seriously? These "crimes" her children commit are serious enough to hit them for it and make THEM cry and be in pain...BUT...Mom then turns around and makes the stories "fun" to entertain strangers...for personal financial gain and her 15 minutes of internet fame and her Facebook fan page? (self-promotion or ambition for herself)





Well, sorry. This Christian is not impressed, Smockity Frocks. Large family maybe. But, to the glory of God? I don't think so...

But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth. This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition (promoting your blog and fan page) exist, there is disorder and every evil thing

But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy. And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace."
James 3


Also...I have to add...

I don't know why this memory has never left me and why it is still so vivid, but, here it is... Once Upon a Time...I was 3 or 4. I had a kiddie pool and a mom who was overly cautious so she only put a few inches of water in it and then went inside the house. 

I knew that when you put things into water, for some reason it got deeper. I had apparently observed water displacement, but I was barely outta' diapers so I didn't understand it. My limited knowledge and desire for the water to be deeper gave me an idea: I started putting rocks and pebbles and everything I could find into the pool.

What any adult able to read this knows happened next is that the water was all muddied-up and disgusting. When this finally registered in my young brain I stopped and went and got my mom to explain.

My mom came out and she was very mad. I was punished. The pool was taken from me.

And, ya know what? She never knew or cared WHY I had just done that. The why of what I had just done was actually really cool and an opportunity for learning. I can think of so many possible outcomes had my mom looked at me and seen my little mind and heart at work. But, the actual outcome with a mother with the spanking mindset was that I was punished and seen as naughty. 

No doubt, every person that my mom encountered for the next few days would have heard the story...of how she did the noble and nice thing of spending her hard-earned money to buy me a pool and then I went and just put rocks and dirt in it! What an ungrateful, bad, naughty child she had! And, I would have heard her telling that story over and over...

Had she...and Smockity Frocks...taken the time to investigate and see life from their children's eyes...something more precious than a plastic piece of jewelry would have come out of their children...




Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Who is He to you?

Saw this meme the other day...and it's funny...but then again...it's not...


It's funny because it "gets ya"! You are expecting that "He" is God so it's got a surprise ending with it being helium. (In case you don't know..."He" is the official abbreviation for helium)

But, the thing about this that's "not funny" is that this really represents a choice we all make...who do you believe "He" is?



One thing that happens with the Theory of Evolution is that it basically forces you to elevate the elements to "godhood". In the Theory of Evolution you go back thru time with something being caused by something...being caused by something...being caused by something...

But, no matter how many millions of years are part of the theory...you can't do it forever. You can't go back in time indefinitely with something causing something then being caused by something else...

Ultimately...something has to be the 1st cause of all things. And that cause would have to be "uncaused".
So, what do you believe that was?

Do you believe that the cause of all things...that led to all this beauty, order, and life on earth...an uncaused self-existent eternal buncha' elements from the periodic table? 

Or, do you believe that the cause of all things...that led to all this beauty, order, and life on earth...an uncaused self-existent eternal personal being? 

Who is "He" to you?





Wednesday, March 12, 2014

The End is Near? "The Antichrist"

All that has to happen is some rumor of war somewhere and  "End Timers" come outta' the closet and start preaching, "The End is Near!"

Which one of us has NOT been hearing, "We're living in the End Times" since we could hear? I mean, really? Someone has always been saying it...
(And, ya know we used to stone these types in the OT, right?)

One thing that always strikes me is that all of the "end times signs" these people see are based on two things...ignorance and fear. Ignorance of history, of what Revelation actually says, and fear. Lots and lots of fear.



End Timers get all excited about "who is the anti-christ" and it seems that no matter which president is currently in office: it's him! If you ask them about this singular "anti-Christ" they all would direct you to the book of  Revelation...but have a look...

Times the word, "Antichrist" is mentioned in the entire Bible:

I John 2:18
Children, it is the last hour; and just as you heard that antichrist is coming, even now many antichrists have appeared; from this we know that it is the last hour.

I John 2:22
Who is the liar but the one who denies that Jesus is the Christ? This is the antichrist, the one who denies the Father and the Son.

I John 4:3
and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God; this is the {spirit} of the antichrist, of which you have heard that it is coming, and now it is already in the world.

II John 1:7
For many deceivers have gone out into the world, those who do not acknowledge Jesus Christ {as} coming in the flesh. This is the deceiver and the antichrist.

Notable: 

- The word "antichrist" does not appear in Revelation. 
- All appearances of the word are in reference to many people not one person.
- Anyone who is against Christ is an antichrist.
- "Currently" (as in 2000 yrs ago when it was written) there were already many antichrists.

That's what the Bible says, but, that doesn't seem to stop the End Timers...











The modern belief and search for this "singular" antichrist is obviously not Bible based

Interestingly, End Timers usually also believe that God will be removing all the Christians from the earth to be spared the suffering of all the end time plagues and horrors...yet...

Rev. 22:18
I testify to everyone who hears the words of the prophecy of this book: if anyone adds to them, God will add to him the plagues which are written in this book; and if anyone takes away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God will take away his part from the tree of life and from the holy city, which are written in this book. 


So, if they we actually living in the end times the End Timers need to get their noses out of Daniel and Ezekiel (and wherever else) that they're "adding" to Revelation...otherwise...far from being spared the horrors (being raptured...which also isn't in Revelation) their horrors will be added to...



Seems to me that more than living in the "End Times" we're living in this...

Jeremiah 5:31
The prophets prophesy falsely, And the priests rule on their own authority; And My people love it so! But what will you do at the end of it?




Saturday, March 1, 2014

WTH: The problem of the doctrine of Original Sin

Have you ever noticed how almost casually people talk about who is and isn't "going to hell"?

Everyone has their opinions, right?

Most people'd say Hitler is in hell... 
Some would say all non-Christians...
Some say it's everyone who has never said "the sinner's prayer"...
Some would say you...
Some would say me...
Some would say gays...and Democrats ;)
And, then of course, the Westboro Baptists think...well...everyone but them is going there!!

But, have ya ever thought about what you're really SAYING? I don't think many people really have...

I did a Google image search on "Hell" and you get fantasy pics like these...


Kinda' like, "Welcome to Hell! Population: Everyone you don't like!" Right? Almost cute. A little hot. Touristy. Maybe we can find a nice bar and get a Margarita and party with some wild bikers while we're here, eh?


One thing that's all wrong about all these pictures is that the people are in some sort of light...


Hell is the absence of God. And, He is light and goodness and love...so...if God is not there...there is no light. None. 


There is even beauty in these images and so none of that. There'd be none of that there because God is not there...

In fact...there would be no other beings at all...because being with other beings is good...being alone is bad...


A truer picture of hell would be completely black and alone...

And, the person there...would look more like this person below...

Don't look too closely.

(I was present in 2007 in a town in a 3rd world country when a riot took place and was there when a man was burned alive. I took pics, sorta' as evidence for the police if they wanted it later, which they did...)

We chat so casually about "who" is going to hell...as tho' we're talking about who is going to end up losing their job or end up going bald when they're old...we don't get it.

When we talk about someone going to hell, let's get it straight...

We're saying that whoever this person is...is going to face God someday...and that God will...essentially...douse them with eternal gasoline, light the eternal match and light them eternally on fire...put them in a dark room...on fire...all alone...writhing in flames...on fire...for not a minute...not 3 minutes till they finally die...not a day...a week...not a year...but for all eternity...and walk away...

And, we're saying that after God does this to...not one...not a dozen...but billions of people...that He, like a sociopath, will disconnect from that horrific reality and just...enjoy the rest of us in ceaseless bliss and joy.

And, the rest of us will know this happened and is happening to all our loved ones and most of mankind (if you're a Westboro Baptist!) and we're just gonna be OK with that. We'll just sing praises and have all this fun in heaven while there are billions of people...burning alive...forever...

Really? It kinda' makes me wanna barf. And, I'm supposed to believe God will do this? I couldn't...and I have sinned. I have been evil. I have hurt people on purpose in my life and I couldn't do this to a chicken or a cat...or even a spider. But, I'm supposed to believe God will do this?

And, it gets worse...

Some people have believed the popular Christian doctrine of "Original Sin" to the point that now, they have to "wonder" what God does with babies that die? 

The Bible does say that "whoever doesn't repent will perish" so what do you do with babies if you believe they're born sinful? Being born sinful would have to mean that babies deserve to be set on fire for all eternity...right? (and, if you believe that a person could deserve that simply because they came into existence then you have no idea what sin even is!)

They don't want to admit it, and dance around it, because their common sense is screaming that this is ludicrous, but, they can't let go of their long-believed doctrine! So, I've heard it said many times that, "God must have a special place for babies." But, there's no Biblical support for that! If you believe Jesus' words that you must repent or perish and you believe babies are born sinful then since babies don't repent then you must believe that God...actually sends babies to hell. And, that somehow...He gets some sort of glory out of it.

And, I think people don't take this so seriously because they have a totally wrong picture in their minds of what hell would be...


Seriously...what gets me about the doctrine of Original Sin...is what it makes you think about God's character...

Think about it...

If a doctrine actually makes you even begin to think that God...the Person who died on the cross for you and me...would take an aborted baby...a miscarriage...a newborn...a child...and set them on fire and kill them forever in darkness...because of one choice that their great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great grandfather made...THAT should make us realize that that doctrine came from the enemy!

The only thing that deserves to be set on fire with eternal gasoline and set ablaze...is the doctrine of Original Sin and the being who created it: satan.


Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Questions about Evolution

I did a post a while back about questions I'd ask about Original Sin that lead to my opinion on it...So, here are some questions I'd ask about the Theory of Evolution...



To me...if I'm gonna say I believe something...I am going to be able to tell you why. I'm going to be able to plead my case...and...well...yeah...pretty much hammer you with questions and facts to support my position. ;) 

Problem for me with the Theory of Evolution is that if I decided today to believe it...there's no way I'd be able to convince someone else to also believe it...and I don't feel comfortable taking a position I can't fight for and defend...




An atheist/evolutionist once said something to me like, "...denying evolution is like denying gravity and electricity. I don't understand those completely either but my lack of understanding has nothing to do with whether gravity and electricity work."

But, I see and feel (experience) gravity all the time. I see and feel electricity all the time. I see evidence of both every day at any time of the day. But, I experience no evidence of evolution. None. And, it's not that I'm asleep or not able to see the evidence...there just is none to see in my daily life...


I'm not OK with that. I can't believe something I experience no evidence of. And, every pro-evolutionist I've talked to has resorted to, "Well, I don't know all the answers, just Google it!" Basically, they go somewhere I am not personally comfortable with and that is admitting (but not admitting!) they don't really have "facts" to support their belief...they "just believe." 


To me that sounds like a religion. And, tho' I believe in God I really REALLY can't stand religion!

So let me begin...

QUESTIONS about EVOLUTION...

For me, just imagining the complexity and amazing-ness of even simple creatures like fish...Now, why would any sea creature even begin to start to grow an apparatus to breathe air? No need to breathe air. They do what they do beautifully the way they are. And, like, so, even if somehow for some crazy reason all of the libraries of information necessary to make lungs just randomly happened...lungs do not make a fish able to live on land.

You know? It's not like all that's necessary for a fish to be on land would be the ability to breathe...




As far as fish (or any ocean dwelling creature) coming out onto land...

I'd wonder about...

- their skin and how it would react to sun and air. There'd be no need to change the skin while still IN the water because fish skin (scales and slime) are perfect (and beautiful) for living in water...so why would it change? What would prompt the organism to start changing from scales to skin and fur?

- And...if it did...then the change to be suitable to life outside water would likely make it weaker and more vulnerable to predators IN the water and it may not have survived. Wouldn't this make the organism less likely to be able to reproduce? What would the transitional form between scales and skin be? How would it even start to happen? This question alone about scales to skin and all of the things you could ask about just this could fill a book...




- I'd wonder about how digestion would work without such a multitude of water. When fish eat they're gobbling down LOTS of water with their food. Now, they'd eat and only have air? How would their digestive tracts work with so MUCH less water? 

- how would the ocean creatures, accustomed to all that salt water adapt to the fresh water they'd get on land with their food? How would their bodies adapt to not getting salt? What's the difference between creatures that need all that salt and those that don't and how would they change? What would happen in between? 


- while still in the water, there'd have been no need to start changing the digestive system to eat dry things without all that salt...with less water going thru the system all the time...so how would this happen and why? And, if the system would have started changing this may have also been a problem for the survival of the changing creature?





- temperature regulation systems...how do they work? In the water...I would imagine it's probably not varied in temperature and so no need to "sweat" or for "cooling" but once out on land the temperatures can get pretty extreme and so what about sweating...how did that whole system develop?  And, some water-dwelling creatures are pretty finicky about temperatures and temperature changes in particular, so, just how did they suddenly become ok with the new temperatures?

- what if the creature who 1st left the water was carnivorous? They crawl out onto land where there is no animal life to eat yet. So...they would have had to start eating plants and what about that? The nutritional needs of carnivores vs herbivores, and their digestive systems are different. So, if the 1st creature to crawl outta' the water was a carnivore, it woulda' been looking for critters to eat and there'd have been none...but others like him...and, so how did this critter even begin to think of eating plants instead of live moving things? If this is possible, can't snake owners train their pet snakes to eat veggies instead of having to buy them live rats?

- So, how did the 1st carnivores adapt to eating only plants...and how did this critter know which plants were edible or poisonous since it's whole system had been adapted to eating only critters? So so many questions here...





- I would wonder about the way their eyes would focus without looking through water and sometimes in direct sunlight. You've opened your eyes underwater before, right? Burns, doesn't it? Hard to see, isn't it? It's totally different than looking at things thru air. This is super different especially if we're talking about a deep-water creature. Why would it start to adapt to bright sunlight and air? So, we're to believe the 1st critter got outta' the water and was able to see properly in air to be able to find food, shelter, and mates?

- eyelids. I can't think of any fish with eyelids? How did they develop and why? Again...to form eyelids and all the muscles and neural pathways necessary to operate them...and tear ducts...and eye lashes...etc...any of these things would be libraries of info TO ADD to the creature...not just some simple thing like breeding a dog to be more furry. Where did this NEW information come from and WHY?



- I'd wonder about their way of reproducing in their way of finding mates (sometimes thru scents in water...now how?) I'd wonder about their way of courtship (ways of moving and showing off in the water) and the actual mechanics of mating...how did this change to be able to go from some frantic show off of swimming prowess to now there on land. Now, what do they do? And, what to do if their way of mating in water was that the female had laid eggs in the sand and then the male fertilized it by swimming by and squirting out his milt? How did "sex" then develop and uteruses etc. as opposed to this egg laying bit? This is a huge HUGE big change. Why would a critter go from laying eggs to developing a uterus?

- all critters incubate in SPECIFIC conditions...even chicken eggs are so testy. Have to be at just the right temp and humidity. How did the conditions for proper incubation of the fetal-stage of critters change without them all dying in the process?



- fins to legs. How and why would this happen? A fish is a perfectly designed creature for life in the water. Any alteration or "mutations" to their fins to make them mobile on land would have rendered them slower than their counterparts and probably more likely to be eaten. Like, did the fins turn into legs or did legs develop and the fins went away? And, wouldn't legs make a fish less streamlined and less able to maneuver in the water? More likely to be eaten by a predator? Especially if the fins turned into legs...the fins would have been rendered totally useless before the legs were useful for land...and...what if the legs came before lungs? 




- Any of these individual changes would have been radical and amazing but in order for the survival of the mutant...all these things would have had to have happened RANDOMLY at the same time...at the same time that it'd happen to an opposite sex one so that they COULD reproduce.

I do see that in my aggressive fish tank those 20 goldfish we put in there the other day have now dwindled down to one BLACK goldfish. I see that in the wild...how the gold ones would be eaten more by predators and it might eventually happen that all the goldfish with orange dna would be all gone and the only ones that'd survive to keep passing on their genes would be the naturally camouflaged ones. But, that's not evolution...because no new information was added...and the fish...is still a fish...



- I'd wonder why the fossil evidence just isn't there. There are no dats or cogs. No evidence of anything becoming something completely different. Supposedly one small breeding group of lemurs is responsible for all 26 (?) different lemurs on...shoot where is that? Madagascar :) And, that makes sense...that thru breeding you can go from one type of lemur to a buncha' other types...but you don't see lemurs turning into something ELSE...



We can get a Chihuahua and a Great Dane from the same canine ancestor thru selective breeding...BUT...there is NO NEW information added in that process. No new info only selecting specific traits we want to see expressed. A Chihuahua is really a dog who is LACKING in information.

And, no amount of tinkering with dogs has led to a cat or some NEW species. Dogs are always dogs. Cats are always cats. Horses are always horses...unless you get them to reproduce with a donkey and they make something which CANNOT REPRODUCE but is still pretty much like a horse.



Thinking of going from a reptilian type creature (dinosaur...I've heard that they might not be exactly lizards but something like lizards but different but whatever) to a bird...is huge. SO MUCH new information and again...all of the in-betweens would not have survived their mutations. A lizard which was changing into a bird but not yet a bird yet would have been vulnerable to predation more than his kin and so...not so likely to reproduce. And, so there should be SOOOO many fossils of these in between stages and there just...are...none. 



- I'd wonder why do we have bacterial that are supposedly UNCHANGED over BILLIONS of years but yet other bacterials went on to become us somehow?

- I'd wonder why morality came about? Morality is useless for evolution because in evolution it's the survival of the fittest...but, morality makes the "best" people be the weakest because they're the ones NOT out for themselves...so this...would seem to be totally contrary to evolution's way of moving forward...and it would seem that moral "apes" woulda' dun died off fastest 'cause they wouldn't have been the nice ones...and just watch TV. It's the toughest strongest ones who get to mate and eat...

- I'd wonder about the maid. There's that pesky 2nd Law of Thermodynamics which is just a big science term to mean that things tend toward disorder...meaning...you don't clean your house it becomes a mess! You don't mow your grass and your house becomes a Mayan ruin...We see this in our daily experience...now...not zillions of years ago...we see it now that without someONE to care for things they get all out of order...so how did we go from some primordial soup to the complexities of my brain or the human eye...just by chance?




And, I could give you a list of 100 more questions... Questions I have no answers for and have heard no answers that I would feel confident presenting to someone else and saying, "Here! Here's why YOU should believe evolution!" And, until I'd be able to answer all those questions (and more) logically...and powerfully...without fear of getting into a discussion even with a Creation Scientist...I would not be able to say, "Evolution! I believe!"

And, the "lots of time" card doesn't do it for me because no matter HOW MUCH TIME you mix into things...it still had to happen SOMEHOW...so HOW? How and why did it happen? I see no sense in it. I see no current evidence of it...





God's not even entered the discussion so far...

Honestly...I'd believe that aliens planted us here before I'd believe evolution. 



And, even if aliens planted us here, I'd still have to ask, "Well, where did THEY come from..." because you can't go back in time endlessly (infinitely) using the "this caused this" explanation...Ultimately, something uncaused had to cause it all and that uncaused "thing" is either some uncaused uncreated self-existent bit of matter...or an intelligent being with power over all...



When I look around me right now...I can tell the difference between a random rock and a "rock" that was once part of a piece of Mayan pottery because although the shard of broken pottery is very rock-like, it clearly shows purpose and design. When I look at the whole world...I see the same purpose and design in every living thing. To believe that all this LIFE and order is "random" and came as a result of random things caused by the uncreated self-existent bit of matter...that doesn't make sense. 

To think all this LIFE and order was purposely designed and created by an intelligent all-powerful being makes a heck of a lot more sense...



For me...things that lead to answers that don't make sense...make me come to a screeching halt no matter what it is. It's why I'm not a Republican OR a Democrat. It's why I stopped hitting/spanking my kids. It's why I abandoned bottle feeding and breastfed my 3rd thru 8th children. It's why I've abandoned so many things I was "taught" in my life...because once I realize that the questions have no answer...to continue in blind faith in my belief is just not me.




Once, I was asking a biologist on Facebook how we got to all of this ORDER...and what do we do with the 2nd law of thermodynamics? How do the 2 work together? Once the "Big Bang" (explosion which normally causes chaos and destruction) happened...how did all the "order" happen? Why didn't disorder take over? Explain! 

He told me I was stupid...and unfriended/blocked me. 



As I said earlier, to me...if I'm gonna say I believe something...I am going to be able to tell you why.
I'm going to be able to plead my case...and pretty much hammer you with questions and facts to support my position. I can't do that with the Theory of Evolution...I just can't...


And, the reason I don't believe God created the earth through evolution is this...because He is love...




For further reading...I've added links and stuff collected from the internet below...


(And, notable is that even when reading about these hoaxes and frauds in left-leaning sources is their quick and timid admission of the hoax or fraud and their quick explanation of how "Creationists try to use this against evolution." They protect evolution with all they've got...)




Evolutionary hoaxes

Piltdown Man
The Piltdown Man was a hoax in which bone fragments were presented as the fossilised remains of a previously unknownearly human. These fragments consisted of parts of a skull and jawbone, said to have been collected in 1912 from a gravel pit at Piltdown, East Sussex, England. The Latin name Eoanthropus dawsoni ("Dawson's dawn-man", after the collector Charles Dawson) was given to the specimen. The significance of the specimen remained the subject of controversy until it was exposed in 1953 as a forgery, consisting of the lower jawbone of an orangutan deliberately combined with the skull of a fully developed modern human.

The Piltdown hoax is perhaps the most famous paleoanthropological hoax ever to have been perpetrated. It is prominent for two reasons: the attention paid to the issue of human evolution, and the length of time (more than 40 years) that elapsed from its discovery to its full exposure as a forgery.

From 1912 to 1953, college textbooks would treat the Piltdown Man as scientific evidence of Darwin's theory. The bulk of the scientific community accepted the Piltdown Man as true.

Before the Piltdown Man, the Java Man in 1891 was also accepted for a while and then proven a fraud. A few years after the Piltdown Man, the Nebraska Man, "discovered" in 1922, was not formally rejected by Science until 1927.

Nebraska Man Hoax (mistake)
Nebraska Man was a name applied to Hesperopithecus haroldcookii, a putative species of ape. Hesperopithecus meant "ape of the western world," and it was heralded as the first higher primate of North America. Haroldcookii was given as the species name in reference to the original discoverer of the tooth, Harold Cook. It was originally described by Henry Fairfield Osborn in 1922, on the basis of a tooth that rancher and geologist Harold Cook found in Nebraska in 1917. The discovery was made around ten years after the finding of Piltdown Man, another possible human ancestor that turned out to be a hoax. Although Nebraska man was not a deliberate hoax, the original classification proved to be a mistake.

Piltdown Chicken: Archaeoraptor
"Archaeoraptor" is the generic name informally assigned in 1999 to a fossil from China in an article published in National Geographicmagazine. The magazine claimed that the fossil was a "missing link" between birds and terrestrial theropod dinosaurs. Even prior to this publication there had been severe doubts about the fossil's authenticity. It led to a scandal when evidence demonstrated it to be a forgerythrough further scientific study. The forgery was constructed from rearranged pieces of real fossils from different species. Zhou et al. found that the head and upper body actually belong to a specimen of the primitive fossil bird Yanornis.[1] A 2002 study found that the tail belongs to a small winged dromaeosaur, Microraptor, named in 2000.[2] The legs and feet belong to an as yet unknown animal.[3][4]

Haeckel's Embryos
The theory of recapitulation, also called the biogenetic law or embryological parallelism— often expressed in Ernst Haeckel's phrase as"ontogeny recapitulates phylogeny"—is a largely discredited biological hypothesis that in developing from embryo to adult, animals go through stages resembling or representing successive stages in the evolution of their remote ancestors.





Scientific Facts in the Bible
1. Only in recent years has science discovered that everything we see is composed of invisible atoms. Here, Scripture tells us that the "things which are seen were not made of things which do appear."

2. Medical science has only recently discovered that blood-clotting in a newborn reaches its peak on the eighth day, then drops. The Bible consistently says that a baby must be circumcised on the eighth day.

3. At a time when it was believed that the earth sat on a large animal or a giant (1500 B.C.), the Bible spoke of the earth’s free float in space: "He...hangs the earth upon nothing" (Job 26:7).

4. The prophet Isaiah also tells us that the earth is round: "It is he that sits upon the circle of the earth" (Isaiah 40:22). This is not a reference to a flat disk, as some skeptic maintain, but to a sphere. Secular man discovered this 2,400 years later. At a time when science believed that the earth was flat, is was the Scriptures that inspired Christopher Columbus to sail around the world (see Proverbs 3:6 footnote).

5. God told Job in 1500 B.C.: "Can you send lightnings, that they may go, and say to you, Here we are?" (Job 38:35). The Bible here is making what appears to be a scientifically ludicrous statement—that light can be sent, and then manifest itself in speech. But did you know that radio waves travel at the speed of light? This is why you can have instantaneous wireless communication with someone on the other side of the earth. Science didn’t discover this until 1864 when "British scientist James Clerk Maxwell suggested that electricity and light waves were two forms of the same thing" (Modern Century Illustrated Encyclopedia).

6. Job 38:19 asks, "Where is the way where light dwells?" Modern man has only recently discovered that light (electromagnetic radiation) has a "way," traveling at 186,000 miles per second.

7. Science has discovered that stars emit radio waves, which are received on earth as a high pitch. God mentioned this in Job 38:7: "When the morning stars sang together..."

8. "Most cosmologists (scientists who study the structures and evolution of the universe) agree that the Genesis account of creation, in imagining an initial void, may be uncannily close to the truth" (Time, Dec. 1976).

9. Solomon described a "cycle" of air currents two thousand years before scientists "discovered" them. "The wind goes toward the south, and turns about unto the north; it whirls about continually, and the wind returns again according to his circuits" (Ecclesiastes 1:6).

10. Science expresses the universe in five terms: time, space, matter, power, and motion. Genesis 1:1,2 revealed such truths to the Hebrews in 1450 B.C.: "In the beginning [time] God created [power] the heaven [space] and the earth [matter] . . . And the Spirit of God moved [motion] upon the face of the waters." The first thing God tells man is that He controls of all aspects of the universe.

11. The great biological truth concerning the importance of blood in our body’s mechanism has been fully comprehended only in recent years. Up until 120 years ago, sick people were "bled," and many died because of the practice. If you lose your blood, you lose your life. Yet Leviticus 17:11, written 3,000 years ago, declared that blood is the source of life: "For the life of the flesh is in the blood."

12. All things were made by Him (see John 1:3), including dinosaurs. Why then did the dinosaur disappear? The answer may be in Job 40:15–24. In this passage, God speaks about a great creature called "behemoth." Some commentators think this was a hippopotamus. However, the hippo’s tail isn’t like a large tree, but a small twig. Following are the characteristics of this huge animal: It was the largest of all the creatures God made; was plant-eating (herbivorous); had its strength in its hips and a tail like a large tree. It had very strong bones, lived among the trees, drank massive amounts of water, and was not disturbed by a raging river. He appears impervious to attack because his nose could pierce through snares, but Scripture says, "He that made him can make his sword to approach unto him." In other words, God caused this, the largest of all the creatures He had made, to become extinct.

13. Encyclopedia Britannica documents that in 1845, a young doctor in Vienna named Dr. Ignaz Semmelweis was horrified at the terrible death rate of women who gave birth in hospitals. As many as 30 percent died after giving birth. Semmelweis noted that doctors would examine the bodies of patients who died, then, without washing their hands, go straight to the next ward and examine expectant mothers. This was their normal practice, because the presence of microscopic diseases was unknown. Semmelweis insisted that doctors wash their hands before examinations, and the death rate immediately dropped to 2 percent. Look at the specific instructions God gave His people for when they encounter disease: "And when he that has an issue is cleansed of his issue; then he shall number to himself even days for his cleansing, and wash his clothes, and bathe his flesh in running water, and shall be clean" (Leviticus 15:13). Until recent years, doctors washed their hands in a bowl of water, leaving invisible germs on their hands. However, the Bible says specifically to wash hands under "running water."

14. Luke 17:34–36 says the Second Coming of Jesus Christ will occur while some are asleep at night and others are working at daytime activities in the field. This is a clear indication of a revolving earth, with day and night at the same time.

15. "During the devastating Black Death of the fourteenth century, patients who were sick or dead were kept in the same rooms as the rest of the family. People often wondered why the disease was affecting so many people at one time. They attributed these epidemics to ‘bad air’ or ‘evil spirits.’ However, careful attention to the medical commands of God as revealed in Leviticus would have saved untold millions of lives. Arturo Castiglione wrote about the overwhelming importance of this biblical medical law: ‘The laws against leprosyin Leviticus 13 may be regarded as the first model of sanitary legislation’ (A History of Medicine)." Grant R. Jeffery, The Signature of God With all these truths revealed in Scripture,how could a thinking person deny that the Bible is supernatural in origin? There is no other book in any of the world’s religions (Vedas, Bhagavad-Gita, Koran, Book of Mormon, etc.) that contains scientific truth. In fact, they contain statements that are clearly unscientific. Hank Hanegraaff said, "Faith in Christ is not some blind leap into a dark chasm, but a faith based on established evidence." (11:3 continued)




- Lack of a viable mechanism for producing high levels of complex and specified information. Related to this are problems with the Darwinian mechanism producing irreducibly complex features, and the problems of non-functional or deleterious intermediate stages. (For details see: "The NCSE, Judge Jones, and Bluffs About the Origin of New Functional Genetic Information," "Do Car Engines Run on Lugnuts? A Response to Ken Miller & Judge Jones's Straw Tests of Irreducible Complexity for the Bacterial Flagellum," "Opening Darwin's Black Box," or "Can Random Mutations Create New Complex Features? A Response to TalkOrigins");

- The failure of the fossil record to provide support for Darwinian evolution. (For details, see "Punctuated Equilibrium and Patterns from the Fossil Record" or "Intelligent Design Has Scientific Merit in Paleontology");

- The failure of molecular biology to provide evidence for a grand "tree of life." (For details, see: "A Primer on the Tree of Life");
- Natural selection is an extremely inefficient method of spreading traits in populations unless a trait has an extremely high selection coefficient;

- The problem that convergent evolution appears rampant -- at both the genetic and morphological levels, even though under Darwinian theory this is highly unlikely. (For details, see "Convergent Genetic Evolution: 'Surprising' Under Unguided Evolution, Expected Under Intelligent Design" and "Dolphins and Porpoises and...Bats? Oh My! Evolution's Convergence Problem");

- The failure of chemistry to explain the origin of the genetic code. (For details, see "The origin of life remains a mystery" or "Problems with the Natural Chemical 'Origin of Life'");

- The failure of developmental biology to explain why vertebrate embryos diverge from the beginning of development. (For details, see: "Evolving views of embryology," "A Reply to Carl Zimmer on Embryology and Developmental Biology," "Current Textbooks Misuse Embryology to Argue for Evolution");

-The failure of neo-Darwinian evolution to explain the biogeographical distribution of many species. (For details, see "Sea Monkey Hypotheses Refute the NCSE's Biogeography Objections to Explore Evolution" or "Sea Monkeys Are the Tip of the Iceberg: More Biogeographical Conundrums for Neo-Darwinism");

- A long history of inaccurate predictions inspired by neo-Darwinism regarding vestigial organs or so-called "junk" DNA. (For details, ] see: "Intelligent Design and the Death of the 'Junk-DNA' Neo-Darwinian Paradigm," "The Latest Proof of Evolution: The Appendix Has No Important Function," or "Does Darrel Falk's Junk DNA Argument for Common Descent Commit 'One of the Biggest Mistakes in the History of Molecular Biology'?);

- Humans show many behavioral and cognitive traits and abilities that offer no apparent survival advantage (e.g. music, art, religion, ability to ponder the nature of the universe).








The Biggest Problems for Evolution

The design of living things has always been a huge problem for evolutionists. Even the simplest single-cell organism is unimaginably complex, with scores of highly sophisticated parts, all performing important functions and all mutually interdependent. The laws of statistics have convinced all who have bothered to calculate the odds that even something as basic as a protein molecule could never arise by chance, consisting as it does of a chain of hundreds of precisely arranged amino acids.
And such a protein molecule is trivial compared to any of the working parts of a cell. When it is recognized that all of these parts must be present and functioning at the start, it must be admitted that life is impossible without an Intelligent Designer. Actually, every living thing gives such strong evidence for design that only willfully ignoring the data (2 Peter 3:5) could lead one to assign such intricacy to chance and natural selection. Every living thing, from simple bacteria to people, possesses the marvelous DNA code, which contains a library full of precise information, and without which life is impossible.
Another fatal problem for evolution—which, if it occurred at all, occurred in the long-ago past—lies in the nature of the fossil record, which is the only physical record we have of life in the past. As is now being admitted by my evolutionary colleagues, the fossil record gives no clue that any basic type of animal has ever changed into another basic type of animal, for no undisputed chain of in-between forms has ever been discovered.
Each basic type is distinct in the modern world and in the fossil record, although there is much variation within these basic types. While gradual “Darwinian” evolution has always predicted that transitional forms would one day be found, the current rage in evolutionary circles is the concept of rapid evolution, or “punctuated equilibrium”—proposing that small isolated portions of a larger population evolved rapidly and left no fossils. But where is the evidence that they evolved at all?
Even though the gaps in the fossil record are found between each basic animal type, there are two huge gaps in particular that should be emphasized. The evolutionary distance between single-cell organisms and the vast array of multicellular, highly complex marine invertebrates precludes even rapid evolution. In the supposedly 600-million-year-old layers of rock designated as Cambrian (which contain the first appearance of varied multi-cell life), sponges, clams, trilobites, starfish, etc., are found without the required evolutionary ancestors.
The gap from marine invertebrates to the vertebrate fish is likewise immense. To make matters worse for the evolutionists, fish fossils are also found in Cambrian strata. If evolution is true, fish must have evolved from something, and invertebrates must also have evolved from something. Evolution has no ancestor to propose, but the evidence exactly fits the creation model, which insists that each animal type was created fully formed, with no evolutionary transition.
The evidence for creation is so strong, it is illogical to believe anything else. Only a religious commitment to atheism, or a desire for the approval of those atheists who call themselves scholars, could lead one down this path. The Bible says that those who deny creation are “without excuse” (Romans 1:20).
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